Frustration usually occurs when our intended personal goals
and dreams are not met. We may feel frustrated when an outcome of what we
wanted to happen simply did not happen, or when we meet challenges. There are
so many things that can cause us to be frustrated. Some people act on that
feeling, while others do not. More often than not, the cause of our
frustrations can be attributed to external forces that we do not have control
over. It can be triggered by a situation like a gadget not working, or even by another
person. Frustration can block us from feeling motivated. We can react by trying
to solve what is causing the frustration, or we can just simply give up.
1. Talk to a friend –
It is always healthy to talk to
someone else about anything that is bothering us. Well, maybe not everything,
but the point here is to be able to share bottled up feelings with someone
instead of just keeping them all to ourselves. Who knows, your friend might
have some solutions that can help you!
2. Write your successes and failures in a journal –
Whether
you do it using an online journal or a pen and paper, keeping track of our
activities that we feel are limiting us is always helpful. That way, we can
have a check and balance as to what worked for us and what didn’t.
3. Accept reality –
We also need to check our own reality.
If we have done everything within our power to accomplish something, and it
still does not work out, then we should try to accept it as it is. What I do in
this kind of situation is write a pros and cons list, and then I take it from
there.
4. Track your progress –
Sometimes we feel that things
aren’t moving fast enough, or they are not working the right away. That could
lead to a lot of frustration. Do a check list and see how you are progressing.
Sometimes small steps may seem like nothing, but being able to cross those
small steps off the list one by one is helpful for seeing successful progress.
5. Take a long walk –
Taking a break is always good. Do not
think of what is causing your frustration for a moment. Hopefully the long walk
or break will allow your minds to be clearer once you decide to go back and
tackle the problem or situation at hand.
6. Stop blaming yourself –
Maybe the cause of your
frustration is something of your own doing. Accept that and try to find
solutions rather than blaming yourself incessantly. It will only put you in a
negative mode which will do more harm than good. It’s your fault; accept that
and move on.
7. Stop being angry –
Anger is one way to vent our
frustrations. It can be either directed towards ourselves or to the one causing
the frustration. Watch a funny movie or read the comic page of your newspaper.
The point here is to minimize anger so you can think straight. Only when you
are thinking straight and calm will you be able to address the problem that is
causing you to be frustrated.
8. Take a hot bath or sleep it off –
Relaxing your mind by
either taking a long hot bath or sleeping it off will do wonders for your tired
mind. Being angry or frustrated can make us weak and vulnerable to stress.
9. Be around positive people –
It is always good to be
around people who are optimistic. You can get energy from them as well as
advice if they have encountered similar situations like yours.
10. Try to be positive –
Try to think of the other difficult
times that you have encountered and yet succeeded in the past. Say to yourself,
this too will pass, as it always does. It may not be an easy thing to do, but
if we try to count our blessings and see where we have triumphed in the past,
we can see that there is no way that we cannot get through this as well.
Source :(Khalid Mohammad)
